sex, and to do that you have to find out how to roll your Rs and heed the following tips.     Dont Make Love on Your First Date   Sex feels great, doesnt it? But sex isnt a toy. Sex is a serious act to be shared by responsible adults. A great lover integrates sex into an overall relationship and never has sex with someone he or she barely knows.   Giving into the temptation of having sex before you really know each other can only lead to problems, such as catching a sexually transmitted disease. But even if you do escape with your health intact, you wont be having great sex.   If you wait until youve developed a relationship with someone, if you devote your energies to finding out enough about that someone so you grow to admire, respect, and love the person, then - and only then - can you have great sex. 374 Part V: The Part of Tens   Set the Mood as Far in Advance as Possible   A common myth says that great sex has to be spontaneous sex, but in most cases, the reverse of that is true. Now, Im not saying that spontaneous sex cant be great, but rarely do two people hit their peak sexual mood at just the same time without some planning.   One reason is that women take a longer time to get aroused. So the sooner you set the mood for lovemaking, the more aroused she can become. Dont be in such a rush. The more planning and preparation you invest in making the evening (or morning or afternoon) as romantic as possible, the better the sex will be.   Give your full attention to your partner the moment you walk through the door, not just before you get into bed. Spend time caressing and massaging the rest of her body before reaching for her clitoris. And afterward, dont feel as if you have to go right to sleep or head back to your apartment as soon as youve had your orgasm.